Until I got married, I had never given any thought to the snooze button. If I needed to be up for 6am, I would set my alarm clock for 6 am. Makes sense, right?
Well, there are people out there who believe that if they need to wake up for 6am, they should set the alarm clock for 5:30 am… and then hit the snooze button three times throughout the course of the next thirty minutes. How do I know this? I married such a person.
Do you know what’s worse than waking up to the shriek of an alarm clock in the morning? Waking up three times to the shriek of an alarm clock in the morning. By that third alarm, I was always ready to grab the alarm clock and throw it out the window. Or maybe at my husband. But that wouldn’t be very nice…
And so enters the lessons of communication and compromise. In my mind, I was in the right, and I just knew that we would wake up feeling much more refreshed without the snooze button. So my first instinct was to incorporate a ‘No Snooze Button’ ban. But there’s one problem with this logic: I made the decision completely based on my feelings and conclusions and completely disregarded my husband and his views.
It’s really easy to do. I always thought that our decisions would be discussed openly and thoroughly, but there are just times that I just want my way. And it isn’t easy to consider Nate’s views. But I’m learning — more and more — that marriage is all about giving a little and getting a little. It’s not about me, but it’s about us working it out together. Sometimes, you do need to put your loved one first and realize that they deserve the end result just as much as you do.
I’ve realized that as Nate and I learn to do this, we fall even more in love. We feel closer. Selfishness dissolves into pure joy at seeing the other person happy.
That said, I will admit that we’ve been nearly married two years and the snooze button is no more. I easily solved the issue when we moved into the new house. I picked the side of the bed with the alarm clock.
Bye, bye Snooze Button. It was nice knowing you. 😉
Do you have a hard time ‘being fair’ in your relationship? How about with friends?