This week’s first guest blogger is Sarah from Running to Slow Things Down. Aside from posting about healthy eating, nutrition, and exercise, she is a talented photographer. You know those pictures of food that look so amazing that you start drooling? Or the pictures of beautiful landscapes that make you wish you could jump into them? Yeah, she takes those. And seriously, if you’re looking for tips on how to live a healthier lifestyle, you should go to her blog right now and check it out. (Or at least after you read her guest post below). 😉 Sarah also happens to be my best friend… my fashion go-to-girl (because she understands fashion and I don’t)… and my sister. 🙂 Enjoy! — Nicole
“So, you have a boyfriend yet?”
An uncle nudges his elbow against mine. A small smile creeps across his face as he lifts his eyebrows. He waits for my response, and suddenly I realize that this simple question has brought in an entire audience to the once empty room. Aunts, uncles, cousins. All waiting in anticipation for my reply.
I used to give good—or at least cliché—answers. You know, things like, “I’m just waiting for the right guy to come along.” Or sometimes I would turn it into a joke with, “I don’t think Brad Pitt is single right now.” In college, I could get away with, “I’m just so busy, you know?” But now that I’ve graduated—which apparently is when “being busy” both stops and starts—people expect a different answer. An explanation to why on earth there is no boy in my life. And, as I’ve learned through experience, people are not satisfied with hearing “I’m happy being single” or “I don’t want a boyfriend right now.” All they see is a lonely girl sitting at home with her old gray cat, a pair of fuzzy slippers, and a tub of Ben&Jerry’s, oozing with chocolate bliss. Drowning my sorrows, one bite at a time. How terribly tragic.
But you want to know a secret or two? I don’t wear fuzzy slippers. I don’t own a cat. I really do love Ben&Jerry’s, but that’s besides the point. The point is that I’m happy. And single. Single and Happy.
Someone once told me that life is about enjoying the journey, not rushing to the destination. It’s so easy to constantly set our eyes on something (i.e., a boyfriend) without noticing everything else that is around us. How truly blessed we are. How good we truly have it. Not to mention those perks of being single! Oh puh-lease, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
I’m not saying that I’ll never find Mr. Right or that I’d like to stay single forever. I’m pretty certain that if I meet a guy who adores big black labs, backpacking and/or a soft, delicate, melted brie as much as I do, there will be no turning back. I’ll be hopelessly lost in love. Forever and ever. But in the meantime, I plan on enjoying my blissful life of being single.
There’s a lot to love about being single. For example, I kind of like the fact that I can come home from a long day at work, throw on my pj’s and just eat a bowl of cold cereal ‘n’ milk because I’m just too tired to cook. I also like the fact that I can spend hours baking homemade bread to accompany a homemade, rustic mushroom soup. Just for me. It feels absolutely luxurious to spend time cooking and dining solo. Yet another perk to being single is that I have complete freedom and liberty to apply for a job—anywhere that I see fit! No thoughts or worries about the other person’s job or desires.
Did I also mention that I have a great group of gal friends and a sister who just so happens to be my very best friend (and the owner of this blog that you’re reading right now! :)) I may be single, but I’m never really actually “alone” and I’m certainly not lonely. Call me selfish. Call it being greedy. I simply call it my time to have fun, and I plan on enjoying every single minute of my happily single life. 🙂